Wednesday, September 24, 2008

A New Addition

I am a proud aunt to the 4 most ADORABLE little girls.





(Thank you Beth and Amy for the pictures :) )

These little darlings are the spawn of my sisters in law. I love them to death!

On my side of the family there are no grandchildren.... yet. I have wanted so badly to give my parents their first grandchild. I figured there was no competition since my little brother doesn't have a girlfriend, my older brother Brian had just broken up with his girlfriend of 6 years, and my oldest brother and his fiance are no where NEAR where they need to be financially/emotionally to have children. Score for me! Here I am, happily married, financially stable (with lots of savings!), and wanting to have children. Looking good for me right?

Wrong. A few weeks ago, one of my older brothers called me. I knew something was up since he doesn't call me very often (we both work a lot!) He proceeded to tell me that I was going to be an aunt in 8 months. "Excuse me?" I said. He repeated himself. My jaw hit the floor and my eyes sprang a leak. I know it's selfish and stupid of me, but the first feeling I had was sadness. I wasn't going to give my parents their first grandchild. I then got over myself and listened to my brothers story. To make it short, he got a girl he went out with a few times pregnant. She's older than he is divorced with 2 kids (13 and 10). Obviously it was totally unexpected and threw their worlds upside down. We talked about how this was not the ideal situation, but that he was excited to become a father. He's wanted this for many years now (and was ready to settle with his ex... long story) and is ready. I am happy for him. He and the girl are trying to make things work. They are getting to know each other and are seeing where things go. They are not going to rush into marriage.

It took awhile for it all to sink in. Never in a million years did I think something like this would happen to my family. We are all concerned for my brother and for his unborn child, but we're excited for a new addition to the family. I will have my first "blood" niece or nephew to spoil and play with. I only wish I lived in Ohio again so that I could be a bigger part of his/her life.

So, will I add to my "collection" of nieces or will I get my first nephew? You'll have to stay tuned to find out!


Beth said...

That's big news! I'm excited for them and I'll keep them in my prayers!

You can move back to Ohio, Karilyn would be thrilled! :)

Melissa said...

I know exactly how you feel, and honestly I still find myself getting sad about my little sister being unexpectedly pregnant. I think the first happiness I had was this week when she found out it was a boy. It just all seemed unfair to me that I didn't get that opportunity to give my parents the first grandchild. I know I'll still love my nephew and it's all in God's hands :)

Tenacious V said...

Brian is doing things the right way, and I'm glad that everyone is happy for him. Babies are always blessings, even if they're unexpected. I like to hear about big-family dynamics and ponder what it would be like to have brothers or sisters. Guess I'll just have to have several kids so I can observe up close. :-)

Colleen said...

Congrats! I left you a present over on my blog.

amy said...


First of all, sounds like you had a fun weekend last weekend. Glad you are getting out with the girls to help the time pass! I know how it can sometimes drag by when hubby's gone.

I'll also be praying for your brother and family as he navigates through this difficult yet exciting time. Hang in there, you're time will come and it will be more than worth the wait.

Love ya!

Erin said...

the girls are beautiful! I know this is really hard to think of and truly believe, but your day will come. I'm really just starting to come to this understanding for myself, but know that one day I will get to celebrate with you when you're announcing that you're expecting.

ps... I tagged you on my blog